Finding Her Way Forward

At just 18 years old, Gracie has already taken on responsibilities far beyond her years. 

She helps care for her mum, who lives with a range of physical and mental health conditions, as well as supporting her two younger brothers. Her caring role involves everything from cooking and cleaning to managing paperwork, attending appointments and helping her mum with emails and day-to-day tasks. 

“I help with cleaning, cooking, tablets, doctors, filling in forms, managing my mum’s phone and emails.” 

For Gracie, caring is an act of love. 

“My mum is literally my best friend.” 

She says that helping her mum regain confidence and independence has become one of the most rewarding parts of her caring journey. 

“I feel like ever since I have helped her, she’s been getting better mentally and physically as well because she’s got someone there she can rely on.” 

Caring Through Difficult Times 

Over the past few years, Gracie and her family have faced significant challenges. 

After experiencing domestic abuse, the family moved between temporary accommodation before finally settling into a permanent home. During this period, life was uncertain and often isolating. 

“It was really hard. We were moving between flats and apartments. This year has been really difficult.” 

Without a stable routine, Gracie found herself spending much of her time indoors, unable to begin college while the family situation remained uncertain. 

Despite these challenges, she continued caring for her family while supporting her mum through both physical health difficulties and the emotional impact of past trauma. 

“I think to see my mum not stressed anymore and having another support person there has been really beneficial. I’ve really seen change and growth from it.” 

Growing Up Quickly 

Like many young carers, Gracie has developed skills and confidence that many young people do not gain until adulthood. 

Through caring, she has learned how to navigate paperwork, manage appointments and deal with practical situations that can often feel overwhelming. 

“You learn how to do things that adults normally do, like paying bills, setting things up and knowing what to do in hard situations.” 

While caring has brought challenges, Gracie believes it has also helped her become more resilient and capable. 

“It gives you confidence and life skills.” 

At the same time, she recognises the importance of making space for herself. 

Whether that means playing online games with her brothers, cooking for her family or working on creative projects, Gracie understands the importance of finding moments to recharge. 

“By the end of every day, I always keep some time for myself because I think it’s important.” 

Finding People Who Understand 

One of the things that has made the biggest difference for Gracie is connecting with other young carers through Carers Support West Sussex. 

She says being surrounded by people who share similar experiences creates a sense of understanding that can be difficult to find elsewhere. 

“I really think it’s beneficial to have other people that are the same age as you and are also carers.” 

Through the groups, Gracie has met young people who understand the unique challenges that come with caring responsibilities. 

“We can relate to each other about things that you normally wouldn’t be able to relate with your other friends.” 

For Gracie, activities, trips and group sessions provide something many young carers miss out on: time to simply be young. 

“You don’t really get a lot of time for you in caring. It’s important to remember to look out for yourself as well.” 

Looking Ahead 

Today, life is beginning to look much brighter. 

After a difficult period of uncertainty, Gracie is preparing to start an Art and Design course at Northbrook College, something she has been looking forward to for a long time. 

“I’m really excited for it. I’ve been waiting all year.” 

She enjoys creating artwork, designing room collages and exploring creative hobbies, and is excited about the opportunities college will bring. 

More than anything, Gracie is proud of the progress her family has made. 

When asked what makes her happiest, her answer was simple. 

“Seeing my mum’s improvement and seeing her happy.” 

For Gracie, every small step forward is proof of how far they have come together. 

“It’s all growth.” 

Gracie’s Message to Other Young Carers 

Gracie believes no young carer should face their challenges alone. 

She encourages others to seek support and connect with people who understand what caring is really like. 

“West Sussex Carers gives you somebody to talk to and rely on who also understands it.” 

For Gracie, having support, making friends and knowing there are people who understand has helped her move forward with confidence and optimism. 

As she prepares for the next chapter of her life, she is looking ahead with excitement, hope and determination. 

 

Outcome Snapshot 

Young Carer: Graciemay, 18 
Caring for: Mum with physical and mental health conditions, alongside helping care for her younger brothers 
Support accessed: Young Carers support, peer groups, activities and counselling support 

Impact: 

• Reduced isolation during a difficult period of family upheaval 

• Built friendships with other young carers 

• Increased confidence and independence 

• Developed valuable life skills and resilience